what if a woman has more than average desire. one is in the case of polygamy he can refuse her husband of it if its in the nikkah contract. 1. I imagine there is an article for things a muslim wife wont tell you, but you really put men high up on a pedal-stool, in the Islamic perspective women really are required to wholeheartedly obey and accept all the lust of their husbands. My husband slept with another woman while we were separated - Husband is seeing someone else after only a few . Quran is the only religious scripture in the world that says marry only one Quran is the only religious book, on the face of this earth, that contains the phrase marry only one. This Ive witnessed in many families. According to it:- When a man calls his wife to his bed, and she does not respond and he (the husband) spends the night angry with her, the angels curse her until morning. Why is it always about how men are and how we shld respect them , when they never respect us they take Us women for granted . They are rather contradicting statements. Im sure each wife will be happy with that. WaAlaikumassalaam brother I completely understand what you are saying but number 4 is nothing to do with Islam. Man is not allowed to divorce a woman just because she cannot give birth to his son/daughter. Here are some of the rules in Islam that must be taken seriously. First ray of real light Ive seen in these sad and depressing comments. The article is sure a nice way of giving a heads up of how many men tend to think like. Bukhari and Muslim. ALLAH know everything but we dont. If available, get professional support or involve trusted friends that understand the cultural background. I would suggest acknowledging the layers of your relationship with him and the in-laws to have a better sense of how to orient your discussions. If you think your husband is brave, noble, handsome, strong, TELL HIM. Your email address will not be published. reward for being patient in the face of a trial, as Allaah says And most of these things go both ways, we know that,bathe author was just giving a males perspective. However, this is not the only opinion or interpretation of how to do this. According to Indian law only Muslim men are permitted to have more than one wife. @Kay: can u provide some Daleel (proof) for your statements.I would love to examine them. withholding sex for some ridiculous reason, for a new gift or expensive bag, etc. It all seems so many years ago now. I have been divorced two times. You men are so full of your selves. I started feeling frustrated from him and that house and my life I wanted to kill myself run away my needs werent fulfilled I used to die from cold n no one used to ask me. We do not know of any saheeh evidence which refers to the How many muslim men have actually married more than 1 wife around you? Because ISLAM is the only perfect way of lifestyle. There are many women in here that have gone out of the fold of islam due to their own personal opinions contrary to what Allah swt has decreed. Only patience, repect and hard work from both spouses on mutual basis are few of the qualities that can make the marriage work. As I said before its much more of a burden than a privilege. After going through whole comment section, i realize that most of muslims here dont even gone through quran and hadiths before putting their questions here. The first thing to do is seek sincere forgiveness from Allah because there is NO blessing in a marriage that starts off from haram. Source : islamiclearningmaterials.com, Hi, Nice article. Have taqwa women! dt will marry her , wat widow, divorcee who many men will not like 2 make as first and they need 2 remarry. go back to the initial thesis statement ( make sure you know what the issue really was, read the answer again and if you still dont know, sit with your husband and make sure you both understand what the question and answer were talking about. A man who thinks about other women issue- he will not get that much desired loyalty,respect and the sex on the plate that he expects from his wife. U just mention everything from men side but ll these important for a woman as well. As it is an obligation for him to do this, then a similar punishment must apply inshaAllah. Here is the sound of chapter 53 that governs the marriage of women who are pregnant due to adultery. I met a Muslim man three years ago. becareful what you say Islam does not revolve round you but your revolve round islam what ALLAH SWT made permisable who are yo to make it haaram. Seek safe counsel. Let me explain this. i have a daughter from my first marriage. But there is Quranic verse. I hate my life ever day. If and only if she did this in the marriage contract, then he is not allowed to do that without her permission. The sahaba were real men and were fighters and very responsible people. If he is of good character and religiously devoted he will go his daily life making sure to follow the sunnah of the prophet and the holy Quran. It is about give and take. So.If the women is the bread winners, is the shoe on the other foot? So the Prophet was married to one woman Sayyidah Khadijah until he was 54 and had 9 wives after that." (Professor Wahbah az-Zuhayli, VII, 169, 170) There are a lot of special reasons: 1. I could not accept that and I vehemently made my stance clear to him. What, he gave her Mahr money, so now he owns her and shes his sex slave? Moreover, both women are siblings or have the same blood relations with your wife before. All men think about other women. Thank you. It is a general misconception amongst Muslimah wherein they think it will be by their approval which will be required for their man to marry another woman or have more than one wife. that He creates love and compassion between them, and helps each of them to Narrated that the Prophet SAW always tried to be fair to his wives. After an argument or disagreement why would any woman want to have sex with the person she was arguing with? God bless you. As per my perception this article is for people who understands it or try to, leaving arrogance behind far away. I cannot say Im a Muslim but I will not give charity (zakat) Its not pick and choose. He never mentioned a second wife again and I was happy with that. In marriage both the partners have to work togther. no you dont , he can married to 4 ladies you can be married to one . It is still adultry. As described in one of the verses of the Quran below. I follow no religion, was raised christian. Muslim men like this sandwich maker wont understand what we women feel and how hurtful it is, Im a Muslim wife and I am telling you this from my experience , dear Paula save ur soul and leav this man and the ideology which branding women as mere brainless machines. I used to cook food for them I did everything a wife should be doing. Men see things differently, so if you get into details of the things which he believes are childish and unnecessary he may get annoyed, and if you do it at the time when he isnt still out of the worries of the day then. Surely a Muslim husband would be accommodating and respectful of his wife in full Polygamy was a social welfare for them. He already has permission From his lord with stipulations. For shame! we can support and help them without sharing our husband. Our minds collect things and remember much better than we think. Both were married too. A woman who cannot conceive a child doesnt have to be frigid. It goes so far in Islam that if a woman wishes to perform an optional fasting (not the ones in Ramadan) she NEEDS to have her husbands permission! Very sad to hear this sister. It doesnt mean hes thinking about taking a second wife. marrying someone other than her husband when she is still married to her and at the end of the Day his new wife will hardly hijacked the 1st wife position Meanwhile, steadfastness to beautiful attitudes is d key to attract attention. When 1 or 2 months he lives with 2 nd wife I feel that I am not having any husband. Performance cookies are used to understand and analyze the key performance indexes of the website which helps in delivering a better user experience for the visitors. And to end it with go make me a sandwich? Everything You Need To Know About Having a Wali in Marriage, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jf6B4xk3kcI, 7 Things Your Muslim Husband Wont Tell You, Preventing the Girlfriend-Boyfriend Relationship. In Islam, marriage is a solemn contract for which the Shari`ah lays down rules and arrangements to guarantee its stability. husbands doing haraam things than to their marrying another woman in a But you cant force him. Arabbi. I dont know what happened to the women and children. For a single woman to dream that she is being loved by a husband is a sign that it is time for her to think of marriage. So you apparently know nothing about women. My husband married his brother's wife. It could be that when you are there with him, he will get better, but you should be careful and tell you that you demand being treated with dignity. The matter of the fact is men are only permissble to marry when there is a geniune reason exists along with prerequisites. Great article, although I think number 4 needs to go. Ds my true life I am leaving with Allahs mercy. if a husband truly loves his wife then he will never leave her. From Maqil bin Yasar, he said: Somebody came to the Prophet Sallallahu alaihi wa Sallam and said: I have a woman who has dignity and beauty, but she is barren. I want to stay by his side, to love him respect him appreciate him and satisfy him without feeling like its all one sided and without feeling like he doesnt deserve it i want to feel respected appreciated and worthwhile but how can i feel that if Im clearly not even worth a days work?? 1626. Intention to marry to worship Allah SWT, Marriage should be accompanied by intent. The way the Prophet did fair to his wives, Rasulullah SAW, we know that Rasulullah SAW has more than one wife. (4) Will give birth to virtuous children. Very good knowledge!! Assalamu alaikum The Prophet did warn men not to hurt their wives and then expect sex an hour later. since its Allahs will and polygamy is halal. Earlier, there was no restriction even on Hindu men with respect to the number of wives allowed. sister Fatima, May ALLAH forgive you. But if she refuses, only then will she be punished. I am a converted Muslim(Hindu to Muslim) bt I learned Urdu. If he spends the night angry with her that means if you can convince him then he will not be angry and no angels curse you. Is Misuse of Polygamy the Main Cause for Divorce? There have been cases where girls went away from their family, are alone away in a foreign country and facing difficult circumstances with no way out. (Narrated by Muslim). Not to insult, I didnt mean it like that. - Tabrez Ahmed Jan 3, 2013 at 8:13 1 Rasulullah said that love is in the hands of Allah, and you can do nothing. Not young enough or just plain not ENOUGH! Then he came to him a second time, and he forbade it. does not engage in sexual relations)." These are your sisters in Islam, advise them with kindness instead of cruelly pushing them away! Sure, I can fake respect. So permission from his first wife would be SHIRK.Proof Please. Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullah. I love Islam and if I can't accept the polygamy issue, does it mean that I am not ready to convert? Prophet Muhammad also often experienced it, below is the prayer of the Prophet Muhammad SAW to Allah taala. Releases natural antidepressants. Even if we do not want to do it. Yes in some Muslim countries men are more tight- lipped but why do you think that is? I dont understand why man cheat on wife so much. But being responsible caring wives and homemakers we dont act on suc impulses. Bravo.Mashallah.this is the thoughts of a regular muslim guy. Shukuran! I so agree with you I was shocked to see how lightly da matter was put up like its no big deall. FOR THE LAST TIME , ISLAM Doesnt force anything on anybody . We want a gorgeous hero for a husband ad much ad you want a gorgeous wife. Wallahu alam. So, now YOU move away from in front of the TV and make ME a sandwich. There are, however sir, double standards- and I think thats part of the root of what most people here contradicting you are getting mad about. His wife was to me, the woman that I could not be and I will be forever grateful for that. Quran permits limited polygyny As I mentioned earlier, Quran is the only religious book on the face of the earth that says marry only one. I will never accept a second wife! He says that he doesnt want them cause they dont have respect for themselves. I agree with not being forced and surely your husband has compassion for you when you are ill or tired from work (inside and outside the home) and perhaps with dealing with children all day long but It is also important to note that expecting your husband to just control his desires is wrong. If muslim women can accept these little tips and advices, then our marriages will be wonderful. This is the silliest thing Ive read in awhile. I am being patient for 10 years but it is hard believe me.It takes its toll, when he gets nicely dressed and goes out without saying he is going out that night, or just even saying where he is going,when he is comingnone of itjust gets up,gets dressed and gives salaamHow can I be loving, caring and make myself beautiful for someone like that?May Allah guide me and everyone in hardship inshaAllah. This is the first time in the 20 years that I have known him where I have been at a loss for words. I was devastated by his sudden death. The man whom I have spent my life with, snatched away from me in a second. Brothers, marriage involves two people. There are more than 100 comments about polygamy and everyone wants to put their input. There is no hadith brother which states that so therefore she will have to be patient. Would this be a question that a girl should ask a suitor just to make sure hes ok with this and not to have any surprises on the wedding night? Its HARAM to look at other women to begin with so how would it be ok for them to be attracted to other women.I dont look or think about anyone but my husband!! Below is one of the hadith narrated. firmly either to do it or not to do it. Do little things to get him to improve his Islam. But we need to understand the spirit of the Islamic ruling first. i have done all types of treatment but no result. It will keep him away from different kinds of sins and might also keep him from going to other woman. Really. assalamualaikum,, I not married as yet but I see so much truth in this article by examples of those married or who has been married around me. So please dont act like its forced on you, on the contrary you DO need to ask your wife for permission before taking another wife. theres a thing called devil n he took the better of my husband n he repeated himself in his act of betreyal.god damn it it hurts.n its all this male mustangs fault.respect,huh!!! You should not even be looking at other woman mate! It just means that all (straight) men do, at some point in their lives, consider having another woman (i.e. arguments arise amongst them, which turn the marital relationship into an At this point, the man has destroyed his relationship with . I love my husband sooooo very much, and he is wonderful! To be clear, no religion does anything on its own. The first wifes consent is not a prerequisite for a man to take another wife. 2.If this person really loves I guess no matter how much effort you put in but this particular relationship is based on your destiny. and the wife wishes for a man with whom she can live in peace. He is not interested in physical affection anymore. Sex releases stress. I like to watch tv on the rare times Im not not being called for surgery. But Allah is forgiving and merciful. But if he does not do it purposely then he wont get sins. O ye who believe! Stop being selfish. At first, first wife would perceive it as sharing of his husband which is true at sight but not if you think deeply. According to my teachers, the first wife does not even have the right to give consent to her husband if he wants to marry another wife as long as he treats her justly. Search it yourself. If you make a second marriage, then you will have another family relationship. However, among the conditions of polygyny, is that the husband should be able to afford the obligatory . If a man takes a second wife against the wishes of his first wife, a sister has the right to divorce him. She is praying istikhaarah about I missed him every day with every beat of my heart. Agreed! Is this because you dont want to get blamed for something youve said? And I absolutely adore our baby, more than I ever . In the future there will be men who cherry pick aspects of the faith for example they will practice pologamy but they wont keep the beard as they dont see any significance. May Allah grant us all taqwa and love and understanding of His deen. Almost at the same time as that of mastani two more women had also joined them to take the training from wasim, they were nadima and noor. Is he repeating some move he saw in a movie? I was thinking the same thing. The marriage of a woman during pregnancy is also mentioned in the compilation of Islamic law and the law is allowed by weighing all its merits and mudharatnya. The hadith is meant for two people who are married and are being the best husband and wife to one another. Q. Just my observation. Those were my words to my husband a few years ago when he mentioned to me that he is intending to marry again a second time. If a women refuses to comfort her husband, its like the husband refusing to provide for or protect his family because he isnt in the mood of doing so. So that really shows how big a mans right is in this issue. walan ta3delo, so as it says at the beginning of surat al-nisa , One wife is Better if you cannot treat them equally. And I totally I agree with muslimah. Allahuallam! Divorce does not mean divorce. However, if the woman disliked this action, and did not want to give her husband this right, then it was her responsibility to mention this in the marriage contract. I dont want to go back dont want to live with that man anymore. The truth is that men and women are different, so the sooner you can move on from that the better. Polygamy is a politically correct topic, yet it is a fact, it is allowed in Islam, also it is a fact that most women do not like it ( when it comes for the first wife) and it is a fact that a lot of the companions of the prophet did polygymy and most prophets as well, obviously it was a part of the life style back then for most men to have many women and if we look at it in a positive way, we would conclude that its out of the question that it is a noble thing to protect and respect many women and to make them wives rather than to have one wife and go to cheat with prostitutes as it is the case in many western countries nowadays including many catholic countries sadly. A pregnant woman out of wedlock, can be mated to the man who impregnated her. therefore he may likely to love d one who shows much respect most. It is far easier for man to get back in mood for sex than a women. Surely there are other ways that you can help her out financially without having to MARRY her! According to scholars, the Shari`ah does not require the husband to get the consent of the first wife for a second marriage. who were patient and sought reward even though many of them felt jealous. Second, third and fourth marriage is allowed by sharia. we believe in the whole of the book and accept Allah swts rule even if we cant fully understand it because He knows us better than we know ourselves. Quran says that the man has the right to have 4 wives, but he needs to love equally, provide equally, protect equally. By clicking Accept, you consent to the use of ALL the cookies. I love this. Just because woman is ALLOWED to divorce her husband, doesnt mean she should. My friend was married to a Muslim man from Pakistan, but he just forgot to mention that he had plenty of other wives in Pakistan. Yet he yells and gets angry if I ask why. Second, it may indicate that you are committed to the feelings your sister-in-law has for you. I have read it myself. For some women, polygamy is a deal breaker no matter. Surah Mujadilah (58) Read it. This answers the question directed to the authoR. . And always remember if MAN is not just amongst his wives, Allah is watching him. New York alone has one million more females as compared to the number of males, and of the male population of New York one-third are gays i.e sodomites. As his wife, you also need to contemplate if this is something you are willing to tolerate, adjust to, and understand. thats the only thing a woman cant take. Men may be the bread winners but life is not complete without a wife. My dear Sisters & Brothers, We will do absolutely good to Our Souls if We desist from Extremism. Unbelievable!!! First bring your husband to defend himself. She may declare that she loves him, but without her respect, he will quickly fall out of love with her. They like to get it on with as many women as they possibly can, like my friends ex-husband. The Law of Allah(swt) is complete in every aspect. MY FELLOW MUSLIMAHLETS GET CLOSE TO ALLAHSO WE CAN GET OUR HUSBANDS TO BE CLOSE TO US..INSHA ALLAH.. Im in agreement with the comments however one thing i feel is never addressed is what if the husband does not fulfill his basic duties as a husband/father? I told him if he decide that he will take another wife then Ill be out, he then can go and marry another one to get the two wives that he desires, as I dont want to live my whole life thinking and worrying about it. I wanted to go out and enjoy my life like others do but my life became very dark n I started going into depression. doing something that is haraam, so how can he pray istikhaarah and claim . whispers is to ask yourself the following questions and answer them ruling can be based. Yes, your husband has to take permission from you to marry another woman. Expected for men who make a second marriage. Man and women are psychologically different as well. Watch this emotional cartoon animation to see how a man married another woman without first divorcing his wife. JOIN US Facebook https://bit.ly/3yOap. Well as a muslim man, I am required to question my ownself before going for second marriage. After all we will be questioned for our actions not what others did or did not do. everyone mush read this article. Think about this please. As i know myself better than anyone so i would noy go for second marriage as i know i would not be able to do justice.. You can imagine how frustrating it would be for a man, who tries his best to care for his family, to be married to a woman who doesnt respect him. Sex when he wants even if the woman doesnt?? something haraam. Mam as everything without nikha we lived 5 years after dt my hubby convenienced dr parents I we get Nikha within one year my hubby attracted with other women bt I couldnt know how its happem. I wanna be there for her in every way she would want and need. So unmarried women are public property? There is no other religious book that instructs men to have only one wife. The purpose behind multiplr marriages was to help and sehlter war victims or widows. Please, do not incline the wife you love more.Do the justice to your two wives that you marry. Good morning But for the sake of all our good, call it truce and take care of each other, and dont resort to these extreme rights. I was told by an Asian Muslim woman that we Westerners have a problem with understanding the principle of sharing a husband. 0.001%. Plain and simple. I so desperately wanted it to work out. I loved it all. wish. This hadeeth was classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Just a curious question: as for men racing to take 2,3 or 4 wives but why is it that in old age when sick and frail then the man races back to the first wife ? Behind far away some move he SAW in a but you cant force him only one wife for! 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